I haven’t blogged in a while. Again, I am just not really enjoying the use of it right now and I worry about the content too much sometimes. I frequently begin to post and question myself. But this… I just really need to post about.

I have a friend (well, had) that I have known online for a couple of years. We became friends on IMVU and several months ago, she started playing Second Life. She met a guy there and wanted me to come try it out. So okay, I wanted to give Second Life a real shot – maybe make some products there and actually have people to talk to. So I went and it’s been a lot of fun.

A couple of weeks later, I find that she’s leaving behind her boyfriend of many years, her family and even her son to go live with this guy she met on the game. Well I had a very hard time with this. Okay sure.. it’s not my life or anything, but I couldn’t imagine raising a child for that long and just walking away like that. She said she wasn’t happy and didn’t want to be a mom and yet had lots of happy pictures of her and her son all over MySpace and I know I wasn’t the only person who frequently heard stories about her kid.

The guy treats her like shit. I believe when she tells me he screams at her all the time because I know how he speaks to me. He’s very disrespectful and constantly belittles me – so I can just imagine the way he speaks to her in private. So I’ve got a real issue with him. Topping it off, she moved to live with this guy and he didn’t even have his own place. He was rooming with some friend of his who’s apartment he moved her into. And then when things didn’t go right, they moved out and moved in with another of his long time friends who they introduced the game to.

So the guy they move in with starts putting a lot of real life dollars into the game. He puts in a lot of money towards himself but them as well for land and other stuff. Because he’s put so much real money into it, he’s naturally become protective of what he owns and does within the game. Well something happened… and he was being severely disrespected despite allowing this guy and my friend to live in his home for practically nothing (seriously.. $100/mo to help with the bills). The guy didn’t like the way his friend was running a business that was his own and apparently it caused a real fight and screaming match there.

So now my friend and her boyfriend have left the area and left behind land that needs to be paid for – and guess who’s responsibility that will become. Oh yes.. the guy they moved in with in real life. They picked up everything that belonged to them in the game including a good sized mall in which people were renting stalls out of to display products. They haven’t been refunded… just left screwed over in the end out of real life money. Things that were to be mine were taken out of the area in which I rent to store my belongings and I basically had to pack up my stuff.

Then I find out that they have been asked to move out of where they are living in real life because of her boyfriend’s attitude and inability to be respectful. And I don’t blame the guy they moved in with at all on that one. They aren’t going to have internet access and I’m pretty sure they won’t be coming back.

On the one hand, I do feel sorry for my friend because I know none of what is happening right now really has anything to do with her. That said, she picked this guy and she continues to let him treat her like shit. I know, I know.. I’ve been there and you would think I would show a little empathy, but I can’t. Sure I left my now ex husband and moved in with other people – but I also took my daughter. I didn’t move to be with some guy I met online. That’s not how that works.

I was already having a difficult time being her friend based on her decisions. I mean… there is being a friend and then there is completely ignoring your feelings, logic and understanding of how the world is supposed to work. I don’t think I am comfortable continuing to be her friend while she continues to express such destructive behavior. It isn’t to say she’s a bad person… her behavior is just inexcusable and she’s not the kind of person I need as a friend in my life right now.

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